Carly (she/her). This is me on a typical day. I spend 95% of my time homebound.
Bedbound and experiencing a "crash" also known as post-exertional malaise (PEM).
Being in the Bardo is a blog I created to explore what it means to live life in the between - be it the infinite transitory moments of our day-to-day lives or the more permanent states of dwelling in the bardo that are often overlooked and misunderstood.
Bardo is a Tibetan word that is used to convey the concept of liminal states of being. The two parts of the word--bar, meaning "interval," and do, meaning "two"--express the relationship between various states of being. In Tibetan Buddhism, for example, this would be an intermediate, transitional, or liminal state between death and rebirth.
More generally, the word bardo can refer to the gap or space we experience between any two states of being such as waking and sleeping, meditating and everyday auto pilot, or even the brief pause between transitioning from one activity to another - say reading this paragraph and taking a sip of your coffee.
More than ever, it is incredibly important to slow down and notice the multitude of ways we experience life in the bardo especially due to illness, disability, trauma, systemic racism, gender and sexual based oppression, and/or marginalization.
For me, this was never more true then in the spring of 2017 when I became sick and diagnosed with Myalgic Encephalomyelitis (ME), previously referred to as chronic fatigue syndrome (CFS). People will often refer to this illness in writing as ME/CFS. ME/CFS is a complex and debilitating neuro-immune illness for which there is an appalling lack of funds, research, knowledge, and treatment options.
Living with debilitating chronic illness has left me homebound and profoundly disabled. I have been forced to give up a career and life that I deeply loved. Now I am learning to build another meaningful life - one that primarily dwells in the between.
This blog will explore stories and experiences of what it is like to survive, gain wisdom, build community, and thrive living life in the bardo.
Hi! I'm George! Woof-woof!
Carly Goldberg, DSW, LCSW is a doctoral-trained social worker who has dedicated her over 20 year career to creating opportunities for individuals and communities to pursue personal transformation and social change.
Most recently, Dr. Goldberg served as the Associate Director of Audacious Hospitality for the Union for Reform Judaism. Prior to her work at the URJ, she maintained a private psychotherapy practice in the Greater Philadelphia area specializing in women’s reproductive mental health, early adulthood transitions, LGBTQ+ gender and sexual identity, and complex trauma. Additionally, Dr. Goldberg served as an adjunct lecturer at the University of Pennsylvania's School of Social Policy and Practice.
Throughout her career Dr. Goldberg has specialized in working with some of society's most marginalized and vulnerable populations. Clinical areas of specialization have included end-of-life and palliative care; care of patients with cancer and their families and other major medical illness; HIV/AIDS research, advocacy, case management, and education; mental health and psychiatric care focusing on victims of abuse - domestic violence, human trafficking, victims of torture and war crimes - and survivors of trauma. Dr. Goldberg has also served in a multitude of capacities as an educator, non-profit professional, speaker, and activist, focusing on anti-oppression and social justice initiatives.
In addition to her social work studies, Dr. Goldberg studied Indo-Tibetan Buddhism at Columbia University under the mentorship of Professor Robert Thurman and Judaic Studies at the Jewish Theological Seminary. Dr. Goldberg holds a masters degree in social work (MSW) from New York University and a a doctorate in social work (DSW) from the University of Pennsylvania.
She lives in the Greater Philadelphia area with her husband, teenage son, and shih tzu, George.